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Nontraditional Tradtions     We live in an age in which it is hard to spend time to sither as a family.Many families today wonder if having quality time together is a thing of thepast. We are inordinately busy, for one thing, whether household bread-winnersor college students. Also, the interpretation of family has changed. We aredealing with impudent definitions and characterizations of the idea of family. approximatelyof us have traditional families. Some families have divorced, single, and/orremarried parents, creating a rather confusing family tree. Some people chooseto live their lives alone, but may still be close enough to some friends toconsider them family.     Whatever the circumstances, many of us aboveboard dont know how tocelebrate together. We may even see the word "tradition" as somethingstultifying and old, having no meaning for or application to us personallysomething unremarkably being forced upon us by someone w ho smells funny and is onlyseen on holidays. What all of this means is that we can no longer simply get marriedthe examples of old. It is up to us to create new family traditions.Celebrating is not hard. We all know some celebrating and have some ways ofdoing it. The only challenge is to find new ways. Why do we need to celebratetradition? It gives us something to look forward to and makes a formalstatement that there are some things in life to be grateful for.     The notion of honoring tradition is unsettling for some people letalone creating new ones. We understand that we need something to add a sense oforder and stability to our lives. But we are not sure about how to create ourown traditions. We seem to think that traditions must be minatory and complexideas that had been around for hundreds of years and will be around for ahundred more. In my opinion, this is not true. It need not be big or religiousat all. I believe a tradition is something that you do once that feels good, soyou do it again and again.     The tale in Frosts "Mending fence" can be viewed as an impromptutradition. The two neighbors needing to repair the wall after the winter chill,find time to converse with each other about whats on their minds.     For example, every Sunday my dad makes tea and puts out two cups, hisand mine. I am used to this. If I had to reach in the cupboard to get my owncup, something would be wrong. As it is, I get up out of my bed, I go into